Exchanging e-mail between men and women
Fatwa No: 82217

Question

Is it Halal for a girl to chat with men in chatrooms on the Internet and to exchange e-mail between males and females?

Answer

Praise be to Allah, the Lord of the Worlds; and blessings and peace be upon our Prophet Muhammad and upon all his Family and Companions.

Indeed, Islam preserves relations between individuals, on a way that suits the human nature. The contact between a man and a woman is prohibited except under the wing of legal marriage. If there is any necessity of talking to opposite sex, it should be in the limits of politeness and good manners, Allah Says (Interpretation of the meaning): {And when you ask for any thing you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and for their hearts} . [AL AHZAB – 22:33]. In another Ayah (verse): {If you keep your duty (to Allah) then be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of evil desires) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner}. The conversation may be by (tongue) speaking or by writing or by gesturing. The main thing is conveying one’s feelings to another using any method of communication. An Arab poet said: “No doubt that talking is in the heart and the tongue is nothing but an indication to the heart”. A Muslim should not address any opposite sex. This is a way of Satan to mislead them. Allah Says in Qur’an: (Interpretation of meaning): {O you who believe! Follow not the foot steps of SATAN. And whosoever follows the foot steps of SATAN, then, really he commands AL-FAHISHA (disbelief and polytheism} . [18:24] Regarding the correspondence between opposite sexes, the details are as below: If the correspondence was on the request of a person, who was in need to increase his/her knowledge about Islam or wants to know Muslims’ affairs, etc. Then this kind of correspondence would be permitted. If there is no necessity or one finds any alternate for this purpose, then one should not address opposite sex. As it is known, most young men’s and women’s correspondences these days concentrate on sex and its related subjects. You may find that a girl is in contact with many young men, and a guy is in connection with a number of girls, every one is destroying his intellect, thought, and efforts in this aimless correspondence. Probably they might enter in subjects we feel shy to mention those here. In this cause they are committing sins, and Satan leads them to destroy their precious time and efforts on trifles. The safest way for faith and religion is to keep away from all these things. There is no lack of Halal (Lawful) ways. Allah knows best.

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